MENDIDIK ANAK MENJADI PRIBADI JUARA

Munif Chatib memberikan materi berupa 5 point yang merubah paradigma berfikir kita tentang anak didik kita. 5 point tersebut adalah sebagai berikut:
1. Memandang setiap anak yang dilahirkan adalah juara
  Munif menyatakan  bahwa “bagaimanapun kondisi anak didik kita, mereka adalah juara”. Kita bisa melihat dalam acara-acara training motivasi kenyataannya bahwa manusia yang berstatus autis-pun dapat berprestasi, atau orang yang terlahir dengan kedua tanggan dan kedua kakinya yang tak normal yang seakan-akan dalam sekilas pandangan kita masa depannya akan sangat suram, tetapi kenyataan berkata lain, dengan tekad kuat, dengan kerja keras, orang yang terlahir tanpa kedua tangan-pun banyak yang menuai kesuksesan dalam hidupnya. Begitulah munif chatib menjelaskan bahwa setiap orang, bagaimanapun kondisinya adalah juara sehingga tidak salah jika beliau memberikan ilustrasi untuk bingkisan yang pertama ini adalah sebuah bintang. Dan hikmah yang dapat di ambil adalah bahwa Allah tidak akan pernah memproduksi produk-produk gagal.
2. Memahami kemampuan dalam arti yang luas
Dalam bingkisan yang kedua ini,chatib mengajak kita untuk berfikir terbuka,bahwa jangan sampai kita  menjadi bagian dari orang mengartikan kemampuan atau kecerdasan di lihat dari satu sisi saja yaitu kognitif, bahkan faktanya, lebih di persempit lagi bahwa kecerdasan hanya dilihat dari selembar kertas ujian.
Dalam otak kita terdiri dari berjuta sel otak yang bila mendapat stimulus yang tepat maka akan mendapat kompetensi yang maksimal. Yang artinya bahwa kitapun harus memberikan arti yang sangat luas dari sebuah kecerdasan bahwa kesuksesan tidak selalu kognitif.
karena pandangannya yang luas tersebut maka chatib membuat ilustrasi dari bingkisan kedua ini dengan samudra.
3. Setiap anak cerdas dengan multiple intelligence
Yang ketiga ini mempertegas dari bingkisan yang kedua di atas, bahwa banyak potensi yang dimiliki oleh setiap orang, kalau lah dia tidak bisa dalam bidang matematika maka mungkin kinestetiknya yang menonjol, atau mungkin spatialnya, atau mungkin linguistiknya atau banyak kemungkinan-kemungkinan lainnya, dan yang bisa di pastikan adalah bahwa setiap orang pasti memiliki satu potensi yang dapat di andalkan. Multiple Intelligence yang di gagas oleh Howard Gardner, mengatakan bahwa kecerdasan memiliki banyak varian, sehingga karena banyaknya ini, chatib mengilustrasikan dengan harta karun.
4. Discovering Ability
Discovering disini mari kita artikan bukan sebagai menemukan, tapi marilah kita artikan dengan makna menjelah, menyelami hebatnya kemampuan siswa kita, dan mengangkatnya ke permukaan bahkan terbang mengangkasa menjadi sang bintang yang menjadi juara.
“kembangkan kemampuan,kubur ketidakmampuan”.
5. Bakat
Inilah salah satu bagian dari harta qarun itu, bakat. Ya …profesi yang bisa menjadi professional adalah karena ada bakat. Kenali bakat anak didik kita, maka dengan banyak sentuhan motivasi maka jadilah dia seorang professional.

BELAJAR DARI KISAH DAHLAN ISKAN

BELAJAR DARI KISAH DAHLAN ISKAN

Wonogiri VOICE of MARON (VoM).Berkaca dari  kisah hidup Dahlan Iskan, akhirnya ada seorang novelis cerdas yang mengangkatnya menjadi novel inspiratif  “SEPATU DAHLAN”, saya MasKatnoGiri berkeyakinan bahwa novel karya Khrisna Pabihara  akan menjadi novel  “super mega best seller”. Karena sampai saat  ini orang-orang Indonesia merindukan  novel yang inspiratif, edukatif dan menkayakan. Kita masih ingat kejayaan novel Laskar Pelangi, Ketika Cinta Berasbih dll. Walaupun demikian kita juga prihatin atas terbitnya novel-novel yang  tidak mendidik, contohnya cari sendiri.

“HIDUP, bagi orang miskin, harus dijalani apa adanya." Kalimat itu ditulis oleh Dahlan Iskan sebagai pengantar sebuah novel . Sebenarnya banyak cerita-cerita inspiratif yang bisa dijadikan sumber bahan penulisan sebuah novel, namun di negeri ini masih minim para penulis. Termasuk MasKatnoGiri sendiri mengalami kebingungan bagaimana memulai, meracik supaya cerita sebenarnya  memberikan motivasi dan edukasi  menjadi novel yang apik. PR besar bagi para orang tua dan guru pendidik, supaya mereka memotivasi pada anak-anaknya agar mampu menulis atu setidak-tidaknya membentuk cerita sederhana yang berguna bagi orang lain.

Sosok Dahlan kecil yang digambarkan oleh penulis dalam novel itu bukanlah orang yang pasrah terhadap keadaannya. Dahlan kecil dalam novel itu adalah seorang pejuang, pejuang bagi masa depannya tak peduli jalan berliku. Kisah  Dahlan ini sebenarnya agak mirip den gan kisah MasKatnoGiri dan pasti banyak juga yang memiliki kemiripan dengan kisah ini.

Dahlan, bocah asal Kebon Dalem, Jawa Timur, berpeluh untuk mewujudkan mimpinya, yang semula sangat sederhana untuk ukuran sebagian besar anak Indonesia saat ini, yaitu sepasang sepatu dan sepeda.

 Tapi dia tidak menyerah. Dari Kebon Dalem, kampung yang dilukiskan sebagai hanya memiliki enam buah gubuk yang letaknya saling berjauhan, Dahlan tekun menyusun langkah hingga akhirnya kini tertambat di salah satu kursi Kabinet Indonesia Bersatu II sebagai Menteri BUMN.

Sebuah lompatan yang sangat mengagumkan jika merujuk pada novel "Sepatu Dahlan" yang menyebutkan bahwa nyaris seluruh lelaki dewasa di Kebon Dalem bekerja sebagai buruh .

 Berkat kerja kerasnya, Dahlan berhasil mengumpulkan uang untuk membeli sepeda secara mencicil dan kemudian dia bahkan mampu membeli dua pasang sepatu untuk dirinya dan adiknya. Sekalipun semua itu baru dapat diwujudkannya ketika ia duduk di kelas tiga SMA (Aliyah). Suatu jalan yang panjang untuk sepasang sepatu. Sepasang sepatu yang kemudian lebih banyak ditenteng oleh Dahlan karena ia merasa sayang menggunakannya.

 Di tengah tengah kehidupan yang manja dari para pemuda dan kemanjaan para pejabat yang korup. Novel "Sepatu Dahlan" adalah satu bentuk teguran dan motivasi  bagi pemuda dan  pejabat  untuk tidak bermanja-manja. Dahlan sanggup menjadi contoh. Dahlan kemudian mengawali Gerakan Sepatu untuk Anak Indonesia dengan membagikan sekitar 1.000 sepatu untuk anak-anak Sekolah Dasar di seluruh sudut Jakarta.

Aksi "bagi-bagi" sepatu itu memperoleh rekor dari Museum Rekor Indonesia sebagai gerakan berbagi sepatu terbanyak karena ditargetkan akan memberikan lebih dari 3.600 pasang sepatu bagi anak-anak Indonesia. Kisah ini mestinya menjadi teladan untuk kita.

20 TIPS FOR MOSLEM PARENTS WITH THEIR TEENS

Summarized by MasKatnoGiri from my Great Ustadzes' advices

             How lucky MasKatnoGiri is , because He has great Ustadzes  who always advise him everytime. MasKatno Giri is getting older. His first kid has been a teenager. Educating teens is not easy, needed much more  experience and also knowledge. We must be  trained  to be as  successful parents. 

              MasKatnoGiri always tries to remember the advices of his ustadz .  These are some of their suggestions:

1.      Building a Masjid  or Mushola in your home 

Delegate a room, part of the basement or the living room as the home Masjid. You can do this for less than Rp. 20.000.000,-

Make this Masjid entirely the responsibility of the kids. Get the eldest to be in charge and to delegate responsibilities for younger siblings. Responsibilities include keeping the Masjid clean, waking people up for Fajr, calling the Adhan, etc.

2.      Establishing an Islamic library and choose a librarian

Equip your home with an Islamic library with books, video and audio cassettes about various aspects of Islam, catering to everyone's age and interests.

Get one of your teens to be the librarian. S/he keeps materials organized and in good condition. Any requests for materials to be added to the collection have to go through him or her. Give this librarian a monthly budget for ordering new books, cassettes, etc.

3.      Taking them out.....to Islamic activities

Instead of a fancy dinner at a restaurant, save your money to take everyone out to the next Muslim community dinner or activity. Make a special effort to go to events where other Muslim teens will be present and the speaker caters his/her message to this crowd.

4.      Moving to a predominantly Muslim neighborhood in your city

Ideally, this should be near the mosque. This step is necessary if you want to surround your kids with other Muslim children of more or less the same age on a daily basis.

5.      Helping teens start their own youth group

After living in a Muslim neighborhood and attending Islamic activities regularly, teens in many cases will develop a friendship with other Muslims their age. Don't let this end here.

Help them establish a youth group, not just to learn about Islam, but to go to the amusement park together, go swimming, etc. Have meetings at members' houses on a weekly or bimonthly basis. Get this group involved in useful work like cleaning up litter around the Masjid or visiting senior citizens' homes.This group must have parental supervision, although teens' decision-making powers should not be interfered with unless really necessary

6.      Taking parenting more seriously than you would a full-time job 

This means both parents must understand their children are a trust from Allah, and He will ask how they were raised. If the children do not grow up practicing Islam because of their parents' negligence, it is not going to be pretty in this life or the next.

7.      Reducing or change work hours and exchange them for time with the family 

It is better to have one full-time job, fewer luxuries in the house (i.e. more cars, expensive clothes, a bigger, fancier home) and more time with the family, than many material things and absent parents. This goes for mothers AND fathers. Parents can't instill values in their children if they just aren't there, period. Quit that extra job on the weekends or in the evenings and instead drive the kids to the mosque for Halaqas and activities instead. Or consider switching shifts at work so that you're home when the kids are.

8.      Reading the Quran, understanding its meaning, for five minutes every day 

Just five minutes. Whether it's in the car during a traffic jam, early morning after Fajr, or right before you go to bed, read the Quran with a translation and/or Tafseer. Then watch the snowball effect. You will, Insha Allah, reconnect with Allah, and in the long run, develop into a role model helping your whole family, not just your teen, reconnect with Him too.

9.      Attending a weekly PENGAJIAN or Halaqa 

Trade playing cards or watching television on Sunday afternoons for a Halaqa. If you don't have something already in place during that time slot, help the Imam to set one up. Attend it vigilantly. The added bonus of this is that when children see their parents striving to learn about Islam, they will in many cases be encouraged to do the same.

10.  Respecting  your teen 

Respecting your teen means not treating them like inept babies, but like maturing adults, not talking down to them or humiliating and insulting them. It means involving them in useful activities around the home and seeking their opinions on matters of importance.

11.  Taking an interest in what they do 

Does Noor play hockey in an all-girls' sports league? Attend Noor's games as regularly as possible. Does Ihsan collect stamps? See if you can find old letters from your parents in Malaysia or Lebanon and pass the stamps on them to her. Does Muhsin love building websites? Visit his site, post a congratulatory e-mail on the message board and offer some suggestions for the site. Give him a book on advanced web design as Eid gift.

12.  Being  aware of problems and address them straightforwardly 

As you spend more time with your teen, you will be more able to sense if there is something bothering them. Don't brush this feeling under the carpet. Address it straight on. But don't do this in the family meeting or n in front of others. Do it during the next tip.

13.  "Dating" your teenager 

While dating is commonly associated with boy-girl social meetings, the concept can be extended to any meeting between two people wanting to get to know each other better.

It's especially important to "date" your children on an individual level once they hit their teens because they are no longer just "one of the kids". They are young adults who need attention and guidance on an individual level. You can go out on a "date" when Sumayya graduates from high school (instead of going to the prom), when Ahmed gets his driver's license or if you feel there is something bothering them and you want to address them alone.

14.  Not to  just be your teen's parent, be his or her partner 

Making them a partner means giving them responsibilities within the family. Get 16 year old Amir, who just got his driver's license, to help his mom with grocery shopping on Saturday's; get 15 year old Jasmine, who loves flowers, to be responsible for the garden and mowing the lawn. This way, teens will feel a part of the family, included and needed.

15.  Establishing a TV-free evening and monitor TV watching in general

Parents' biggest competitor for their children's attention is the T.V. Sound Vision's unTV guide. Monitoring what everyone watches simply means taking care to remind and help everyone avoid shows which depict sex, violence and encourage unIslamic activities. Put up a list of acceptable and unacceptable shows on the wall beside the T.V.

Establishing TV-free evenings means having one evening of the week when no one, adult, teen or child is allowed to watch television. Hopefully, this is a first step towards general TV reduction in the home. This is an ideal time to have the next tip.

16.  Having weekly family meetings

The purpose: to find out what is going on in everyone's lives and to consult the family on important issues. Hanan started attending a Halaqa, Imran just returned from a Muslim youth camp, Bilal aced the last algebra test. The point is not to just give this news in point form. It's to elicit discussion and communication between everyone, and to keep up-to-date about what is going on in everyone's life, which gets harder when kids become teenagers.

This is also the place to consult the family and decide on major issues affecting everyone: a move to another city; a marriage of one of the family members; difficulties with a bully in school, etc.

Please note: Shura in the family does not mean a majority vote determines what to do about a situation. While the parents remain in charge, teens and younger children voice opinions and suggestions parents will consider in making a final decision about a matter.

17.  Providing the right role models-What would Abu Bakr have done?

Apart from being a role model yourself by trying to practice Islam, make sure you provide teens with reading material about the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) and his Companions (Sahaba), both the men and the women. Otherwise, the characters on the programs your kids watch on television may become their "Sahabas".

Discuss what a Companion may have done in a situation relevant to teens' lives. What would Abu Bakr Siddiq do if he saw a someone selling answers to the grade 11 math final exam? What would Aisha have done is she was confronted with the opportunity to cheat her parents?

18.  Reading  books on Positive Parenting

These can be books written by Muslims, but even books by non-Muslims can help. However, just be ready and make sure you are able to identify what is Islamically acceptable versus what is not.

19.  Geting them married early

A Muslim teenager facing this is in a tough position: succumb to the temptations or try really, really hard not to. Getting them married early (check out some tips for parents) will ease the pressure, and they don't have to stop their studies to do this. Remember, as a parent you will also be partly responsible if your son or daughter wanted to marry, you stopped them and they ended up having sex outside of marriage. You should also remember when undertaking this step not to force your son or daughter to marry someone they do not like.

20.  Last but not least-Praying

Praying. It is really Allah who guides and misguides, but if you've done your job as a parent, Insha Allah, keeping your teen a practicing Muslim will be easier to do than if you had neglected this duty. As well, make  prayer for your teen in front of them. This reminds them how much you love them and your concern for them.

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How great my teacher is, he always motivates me. I always remember what he said. One day he told me that I could be wealthy.He also told me not to define wealth into a simple way, Wealth could be define into deep meanings. He stated that there're requirements of being wealthy, I must take his advice:
1. Taking decisive and immediate action.
2. Focusing on being productive, not being busy.
3. Making logical, informed decisions.
4. Avoiding the trap of trying to make things perfect.
5. Working outside of the comfort zone.
6. Keeping things simple.
7. Focusing on making small, continuous improvements.
8. Maintaining a positive outlook as we learn from our mistakes.
9. Spending time with the right people.
10. Maintaining balance in our life covering IQ,EQ,SQ

MENJADI ENTREPRENEUR BERBASIS OTAK KANAN

            Mendidik  diri bermental  entrepreneur   berbasis otak kanan  sangat penting. Selama ini, kebanyakan orang hanya menggunakan otak kiri-nya yang berkaitan dengan bahasa, logika, dan simbol simbol dan diarahkan pada pemikiran linear dan vertical (dari satu kesimpulan logis ke kesimpulan logis lainnya).

            Secara lebih seimbang, otak kanan yang berkaitan dengan fungsi-fungsi emosi, intuitif, dan spasial serta bekerja berdasarkan pikiran  lateral (mempertimbangkan masalah dari semua sisi dan sampai pada hal yang berbeda) merupakan bagian otak yang berperan penting dalam kreatifitas.

            Dalam dunia wira usaha , karya  kreatif adalah inti  dari hal yang bisa dimaksimalkan. Dalam hal ini  pengaktifan otak  kanan menjadi sangat penting. Memaksimalkan fungsi otak kanan  akan menghasilkan pemikiran-pemikiran yang tidak konvensional, tidak sistematis, dan tidak terstruktur. Hal ini tidak berarti hasil pemikiran otak kanan merupakan sesuatu yang sembarangan, namun hasil pemikiran otak kanan berkaitan dengan sesuatu yang baru, yang tidak biasa, dan berbeda dari apa yang ada sebelumnya.

            Ada beberapa cara  yang dapat dilakukan untuk mengembangkan otak kanan antara lain:

1.      Mencari-dan mencari  berbagai alternatif pemecahan masalah .

2.      Menentang kebiasaan, rutinitas, dan tradisi.

3.      Memainkan permainan - permainan mental, berusaha melihat masalah dari berbagai sudut pandang.

4.      Menyadari bahwa ada banyak  jawaban yang benar, dari persoalan.

5.      Melihat masalah sebagai batu loncatan untuk menemukan ide-ide baru. Jika  beban masalah terlalu banyak, mungkin baru diuji atau kena adzab jadi segera instropeksi dan bertobat.

6.      Melihat kesalahan dan kegagalan sebagai sarana untuk memperoleh keberhasilan. Jadi jangan mudah mengeluh.

7.      Menghubungkan ide-ide yang tidak berhubungan untuk menemukan solusi yang baru dan inovatif .

8.      Memiliki  daya pandang yang menyebar melihat dari atas dan menyeluruh terhadap berbagai hal rutin yang terjadi dalam kehidupan sehari-hari dan kemudian mengambil keputusan yang sesuai dengan masalah yang dihadaipi.

                        Maka bisa disimpulkan bahwa,  kesempatan berhasil di banyak bidang sangat dipengaruhi daya kreatifitas, inovasi dan kekayaan pengembangan diri. Salah satu yang sangat mendesak adalah memaksimalkan peran otak kanan.

Lyrics to Someone Like You

Lyrics to Someone Like You

 by adele:

I heard ,That you're settled down
That you, Found a girl,And you're
Married now...

I heard That your dreams came true
I guess she gave you things, I didn't give to you

Old friend, why are you so shy?
It ain't like you to hold back or hide from the lie.

I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited,
But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it,
I had hoped you'd see my face,
And that you'd be reminded that for me it isn't over,

Never mind, I'll find someone like you,
I wish nothing but the best for you, too,
Don't forget me, I beg,
I remember you said,
"Sometimes it lasts in love,
But sometimes it hurts instead,"
Sometimes it lasts in love,
But sometimes it hurts instead, yeah,

You know how the time flies,
Only yesterday was the time of our lives,
We were born and raised in a summer haze,
Bound by the surprise of our glory days,

I hate to turn up out of the blue uninvited,
But I couldn't stay away, I couldn't fight it,
I had hoped you'd see my face,
And that you'd be reminded that for me it isn't over,

Never mind, I'll find someone like you,
I wish nothing but the best for you, too,
Don't forget me, I beg,
I remember you said,
"Sometimes it lasts in love,
But sometimes it hurts instead,"

Nothing compares,
No worries or cares,
Regrets and mistakes, they're memories made,
Who would have known how bittersweet this would taste?

Nevermind, I'll find someone like you,
I wish nothing but the best for you,
Don't forget me, I beg,
I remember you said,
"Sometimes it lasts in love,
But sometimes it hurts instead,"

Nevermind, I'll find someone like you,
I wish nothing but the best for you, too,
Don't forget me, I beg,
I remember you said,
"Sometimes it lasts in love,
But sometimes it hurts instead,"
Sometimes it lasts in love,
But sometimes it hurts instead.