ARE WE EAGER TO HAVE SINCERITY?

Are we eager to have sincerity?

If our  answer YES, so we are going to have a happy life.

Sincerity of feeling, intent touches the hearts of everyone.

What exactly defines sincerity? And how do we achieve it? No other formula exists for sincerity than to be sincere by being genuine, having faith and trust in our self.

 According to my teacher teacher, there are many ways to achieve sincerity, they are as follows:

Doing or acting the same way alone as we do when in the presence of others. This is the real  and this is the person that people will and trust That is not only hard work but is ultimately insincere.

Doing  things out of the goodness of our heart; don't seek a reward or do things to acquire things from people. When we give without expecting the boomerang effect to occur, the giving becomes an act of sincerity and an expression of  our  genuine concern for and interest in others.

Understanding  that sincerity comes from the heart. Whatever we do or say, it is vital to mean to do or say it and to back it up with  our beliefs. We cannot be sincere when we compliment someone but deep inside we detest or hate him or her.

Realizing that sincerity can expose us. Opening up to others about  our feelings, motives and aspirations can cause some people to react in insincere ways and to try and drag us down.

Using  positive affirmations. Always seek the goodness  in us, in others, in situations. When negative connotations arise, use  our positive affirmations to override the negatives and to try to find the silver lining in any situation. Sincerity thrives on effort to think the right way.

Be hospitable in any situations and lack material neediness. Sincerity is advanced when we are open to having others in  our life and when we do not feel a need to compare ourself with what others have and what we do not. Material neediness destroys the ability to be sincere because our focus is always on protecting our possessions and aiming to accumulate more instead of looking outwards into the human community around us  and perceiving the ways in which we can add substance to it through the goodness of our heart.

Apakah kita ingin memiliki ketulusan?

Apakah kita ingin memiliki ketulusan?
Jika jawabannya YA,  maka  kita akan memiliki kehidupan yang bahagia.
Ketulusan perasaan, niat menyentuh hati semua orang.
Apakah definisi  ketulusan? Dan bagaimana kita mencapainya? Tidak ada rumus lain untuk  mencapai ketulusan,  kecuali  memiliki iman Kepada Allah s.w.t . dan kepercayaan dalam diri kita.

Bagaimana upaya kita meraih ketulusan?

Menurut ustadz saya ada beberapa cara mencapai tulus / ikhlas antara lain:
1. Melakukan atau bertindak dengan cara yang sama saja seperti yang kita lakukan ketika  sendirian atau di hadapan orang lain. Ini adalah nyata dan ini adalah orang yang bisa dipercaya .

2. Melakukan hal-hal dari kebaikan hati kita, jangan mencari hadiah atau melakukan hal-hal untuk mendapatkan sesuatu dari orang. Mestinya kita memberi tanpa mengharapkan efek bumerang terjadi, Pemberian menjadi tindakan ketulusan dan ekspresi perhatian yang tulus untuk kepentingan orang lain.
3. Memahami  bahwa ketulusan datang dari hati.. Kita tidak bisa tulus ketika kita memuji seseorang tetapi jauh di dalam kita benci atau membenci dia.
4. Menggunakan afirmasi positif.  Kita seharusny selalu mencari kebaikan dalam diri kita, pada orang lain, dalam situasi. Ketika konotasi negatif muncul, menggunakan afirmasi positif kita untuk menimpa negatif dan mencoba untuk menemukan sisi positif  dalam situasi apapun. Ketulusan berkembang pada upaya untuk berpikir dengan cara yang benar atau  positif.
5. Menjadi ramah dalam berbagai situasi . Ketulusan adalah usaha menjadi terbuka dalam menghadapi berbagai jenis manusia maupun  ketika kita tidak merasa perlu untuk membandingkan diri kita dengan apa yang orang lain.

BECOME  A QUALIFIED PEOPLE WITH THE SINCERE OF INTENTION (IKHLAS)
(Summarized from many sources by MasKatno Giri)
All praise is due to Allah, and may peace and blessings be upon the Messenger of Allah, and upon his family and his companions.
With regard to the matter of sincere intention, it seems that some people are confused with regard to certain aspects. Therefore, I just sugest me by writing the following points, and all success is from Allah:
1. Firstly, the correct intention is one of two conditions for every act of worship to be accepted, along with the action being in accordance to the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah. The proof for this principle can be found in Allah’s statement: “So whoever hopes for the meeting with his Lord (Allah) – let him do righteous work and not associate anyone in the worship of his Lord.” [Al-Kahf 18:110].
2. Secondly, the essence of the correct intention is for an action to be sincerely for the sake of Allah, and not to contain any form of shirk, or giving some of Allah’s rights to someone or something else. Fadl bin Ziyaad said, “I asked Abu Abdullah (i.e., Imaam Ahmad) about the intention in action, how should it be? He said, ‘One should treat his self when he intends to do an action, not desiring by it the people (RIYA”).
3. Thirdly, intention is something that needs to be constantly reviewed and worked upon. Sufyaan ath-Thawree said, “I have not battled with anything more difficult than my intention.”
4. Fourthly, the fact that another person is the cause for some of our good deeds, or that they call us to guidance, or that they encourage us to do something which we were not intending to do, does not affect our intention. This is part of the foundation of da’wah and calling people to guidance. The Prophet – may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him – used to encourage some of the companions to do actions that they were not intending to do, and he encouraged others to do the same. The Prophet – may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him – said, “Whoever calls to guidance has the reward of it and the reward of everyone who acts upon it, until the Day of Resurrection (hari kebangkitan), without their reward being decreased in any way.” So if a brother comes to you and says, ‘come to the masjid’, and you were not intending to come, but because of him calling you to guidance, you decide to come, and you make your worship for the sake of Allah alone, then your intention is correct, if Allah wills, and the fact that another brother called you to do something that you had not planned to do does not affect our intention.
Similarly, if your intention was not pure, and then you realise that we have been showing off in some of our deeds, then we correct them and seek Allah’s forgiveness, then your intention returns to being correct, and if you do so before we complete the action (such as before we finish praying), then we do not lose the reward of the entire prayer.
5. Fifthly, showing off is a form of minor shirk (kelalaian) and is extremely serious, but it is equally serious to not perform good deeds out of fear of showing off. Al Fudayl bin ‘Iyaad considered it another form of riyaa’. Rather you should say, ‘O Allah, I seek refuge with you from making partners with you while I realise, and I ask your forgiveness for what I do not realise.’ Leaving that which Allah has ordered you out of fear of what people may say can even reach the level of major shirk, so do not allow the shaytaan to open a door to your destruction!
A person’s Islam is not accepted by Allah until it is sincere – this is one of the conditions of laa ilaaha ill Allah, but as Muslims we are commanded to treat them as normal Muslims, since the matter of intention is left to Allah. In general, we shouldn’t rush to encourage a person who is not sincere. This does not benefit Islam and the Muslims, and the person themselves may be harmed.
However, we may see someone who has some fault in their intention, and we believe that there is a good chance that the person will be corrected, based on their environment and their character. First of all we should try to correct their intention before they become Muslim. In the example of marriage, we try to make the marriage secondary to pleasing Allah. If we believe that they will change, then we may accept their Islam. However, if the person who they are marrying is not even practising Islam, then it is unlikely that they will see the beauty of Islam, when the person they are marrying does not even see it. So, I think that we should be very careful in some of these cases.
6. Sixthly, a person may enter Islam for the sake of the dunyaa, or with a fault in their intention and then correct his or her intention, as Imaan enters their hearts, and so become from the true Muslims. This was the case of some of the companions, especially those who became Muslim after the conquest of Makkah. Some of them became Muslim for worldly reasons, but the sun did not set before Allah and His Messenger were more beloved to them than the earth and whatever was in it. This does not mean that we should encourage people to become Muslim who do not want to, however, we have not been asked to rule based on the hearts of the people, and it is possible for people to change once they see the beauty of Islam.
7. Finally, do not succumb to the whispers of shaytaan, that when a person calls you to do something good you say, ‘my intention is not right’ – this is nothing but the whisperings of the shayaateen, may Allah protect me and you from them. Rather embrace this good deed and make it sincere for Allah without showing off. This way you will get the reward for your action, as will the person who called you to do good. At the very least be honest and say, ‘I am too lazy to do it’, rather than inventing a religious excuse that Allah has given you no authority for; perhaps Allah will open your heart to the truth because of your honesty.
Don’t forget that intention alone is not enough for your deeds to be accepted. They must also be in accordance with the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah – may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him. ‘Aa’ishah – may Allah be pleased with her – narrated that the Prophet – may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him – said, “Whoever does an action that is not in accordance with my affair [i.e., my sunnah] then it is rejected.”
May Allah grant us all beneficial knowledge and the ability to act upon it, and save us from the whisperings of the shaytaan

THE KEY OF SUCCESS (KUNCI SUKSES ) UNTUK "BOLO DEWE"

THE KEY OF SUCCESS (KUNCI SUKSES )  UNTUK "BOLO DEWE"

  THE KEY OF SUCCESS (KUNCI SUKSES )

Even though I am not  a perfect man, but  I hope to be better. I hope that someday I can be  a successful  man  in many fields  either in financial, social, academical, and spiritual fields.

Is it possible?

Certainly, The world is full of possibilities. I always remember my teacher’s advice that everybody has   a right to be successful but they must have a key  of success. Do you know what  the key of success is?

My teacher said that POSITIVE THINKING IS THE KEY OF SUCCESS.

My teacher adds that effective positive thinking that brings results is much more than just repeating a few positive words, or telling ourself that everything is going to be all right. It has to be our predominant mental attitude. It is not enough to think positively for a few moments, and then letting fears and lack of belief enter our mind. Some effort and inner work are necessary.

Here are tips to help us  develop the power of positive thinking:

• Always use only positive words while thinking and while talking. Use words such as, 'I can', 'I am able', 'it is possible', 'it can be done', etc.
• Allow into our awareness only feelings of happiness, strength and success.
• Try to disregard and ignore negative thoughts. Refuse to think such thoughts, and substitute them with constructive happy thoughts.
• In our conversation use words that evoke feelings and mental images of strength, happiness and success.
• Before starting with any plan or action, visualize clearly in our mind its successful outcome. If  we visualize with concentration and faith,  we will be amazed at the results.
• Read at least one page of inspiring book every day.
• Minimize the time we listen to the news and read the papers.
• Associate our self with people who think positively.
• Always sit and walk with our back straight. This will strengthen our confidence and inner strength.
• Walk, do exercise, swim or engage in some other physical activity. This helps to develop a more positive attitude.

Think positive and expect only favorable results and situations, even if our current circumstances are not as you wish them to be. In time, our mental attitude will affect our life and circumstances and change them accordingly.

YEN ORA BOLO ORA TAK KANDANI

(YEN ORA BOLO ORA TAK KANDANI)
Orang normal pasti ingin SUKSES (ini bukan akronim SukatnoGiri Setia Selalu). Penting untuk dicermati ciri-ciri calon orang sukses
1. Keberanian untuk berinisiatif/ kreatif
Inisiatif dan kreatif adalah kekayaan semua orang, tinggal orang itu mau atau tidak untuk berinisiatif dan kreatif mengemukakan ide-idenya.
2. Tepat waktu
Jumlah waktu yang sama yaitu 24 jam sehari. Orang yang senantisa berpegang (DEMI WAKTU MANUSIA DALAM KERUGIAN) dan berusaha menggunakan waktu sebaik-baiknya, pasti calon sukses (iki conto : bangun pagi, tepat jnji dll)
3. Senang melayani dan memberi dengan ikhlas
Rumus sukses dari banyak orang sukses adalah mampu memelopori, namun sebuah additional attribute dari sikap kebiasaan melayani dan memberi.
“The more you give to others, the more respect you get in return”
4. Bersifat Terbuka pada Hal-hal baru dan tentu baik
Rasa percaya dan kebesaran hati untuk membuka diri terhadap orang lain merupakan cermin bahwa kita siap jadi sukses
5. Cooperatif (Senang bekerja sama dan membina hubungan baik)
Kemampuan bekerja sama dalam tim adalah salah satu kunci keberhasilan utama.Orang tidak bisa hidup sendiri dalam meraih sukses.
6. Senang belajar pada hal-hal baru
Jadi senang belajar dan mencari hal baru adalah sebuah sikap kesuksesan.
7. Pantang menyerah dan mengeluh.
Lance Armstrong pernah berkata, “There are two kinds of days: good days and great days.”
Hanya ada dua macam hari: hari yang baik dan hari yang sangat baik.
8. Berani menanggung resiko
Resiko hanyalah akan berakibat dua macam: be a good or a great day. Jadi, jadi tidak perlu dikhawatirkan lagi bukan?
Kegagalan pun hanyalah kesempatan belajar untuk tidak mengulangi hal yang sama di kemudian hari. Gagal itu biasa .
9. Berjuang, berusaha berpikir positif setiap saat.
Hidup adalah perjuangan (life is a strugle) Tidak mau berjuangan jangan hidup di bumi ini.
SELAMAT DAN SUKSES SELALU.

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بِسۡمِ ٱللهِ ٱلرَّحۡمَـٰنِ ٱلرَّحِيمِ

In the Name of Allah Most-Compassionate, Most-Merciful

“Wal Asri…”
Feel time slipping away from between your fingers,
feel the realisation of Al-Haqq,
feel and understand His words when He said,
“Wal asri in’nal insaana la fi khus’r…”

Man is indeed at a loss,
as the sands of time run against him,
time ebbs away,
his life shortens,
his works slowly turn to dust.

Like him one day,
assigned to the grave of his life much coveted,
hearing footsteps walking away,
he comes into the full realisation,
“Wal asri in’nal insaana la fi khus’r…”

From what was he created but dust,
to what does everything return but dust,
time ebbs away from between his fingers,
and consumed by the universe,
he is returned to his former state from whence he came,
he understands his Lords words,
“Wal asri in’nal insaana la fi khus’r…”

Now in that realisation,
he sees only time,
like a river it flows through him,
like a particle of dust it is a part of him,
he sees only time but time enough to remember,
“illall ladhina aminu, wa ami lus-saalihat, wat’ta’wasau bil haqqi, wat ta’wasau bis sabr”

Now as time passes onto a place without time,
he understands the truth,
he sees only Al-Haqq,
now there is no time to count,
only deeds and hearts to measure,
in that place between time,
he realises there is only Al-Haqq,
there was only ever Al-Haqq.

There was no time and no place,
no thought and no space,
what was in between the spaces,
was only a figment of his mind,
of what was real is now left behind.

It was only a matter of time,
before he realised it was never about time,
it was about how each moment was spent,
in His contemplation and hearts yearning,
to be back once more with its kind.

Surah al-Asr
“I swear by the time,
Verily Man is in loss,
Except such as have Faith, and do righteous deeds, and (join together) in the mutual teaching of Truth, and of Patience and Constancy”.